Sherri, as I was reading your post, I had to stop and look up it was not one I wrote. But even then , I think it was triggered to my hormones. I also just underwent several tests for digestive issues. Pray for our country, pray for piece and pray for each other. The doctors didnt have an answer as to why so thats what got me googling which led to my health anxiety. Strangely I don't have hot flashes yet but I'm sure they are around the corner. Couples therapy and family therapy are two types of psychotherapy where people practice this form of interpersonal communication. The anxiety (about health and dying) is ALL the time. Thank you, {{form.email}}, for signing up. I have so many odd symptoms I just feel like I'm about to drop dead any minute. I also have low back pain but I have 3 facet joints in my lower back that are shot so the back pain (I think) is explained. I had lots of stomach issues with Covid, super constipated and it lasted for what seemed like forever but I also have belly issues with peri. I hope you feel better but at least you know you aren't alone. I didnt realize men caused this. Don't worry about your bladder it will go away eventually. Its Feb 5 now and on April 15 it will be my one full year without a period. Hi I know this post was some time ago. My primary care doc set me up with an ENT to determine if my head had something to do with my nasal sinuses. hi i really feel the same .somedays the meno symptoms come back with a vengance constant nausea tiredness aches and pains . It's frightening and debilitatingthe crying, the anxiousness coursing through me, the nausea, the panic attacks all night long. ", "I feel sad when it seems like my feelings are not taken seriously.". It's hard to explain. so sick of the bloating, sickness and flatulence! I've had this for the last 3 months. The pain in my throat and ears of all things was TONSIL STONES! Spoke too soon! praying for us all, Hi there! I had a biopsy and it wasnt bad at all. To provide the best experiences, we use technologies like cookies to store and/or access device information. I am 49 so this is a (fairly) early age to already be postmeno, but Mom went thru it at 49 as well. I also have lower central back pain but I have 3 messed up vertebrae so that is explained. My daughter was involved in a fatal car accident in January. Registered in England and Wales. I also use a moisturizer Gynetrof and Calendula ointment. I'm new to this site and I'm so grateful I've stumbled upon this forum. Hopefully we will all see an improvement in our symptoms soon. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. Mornings with my coffee are terrible (piddling every 15 minutes). By placing the attention primarily on the feelings and needs of the speaker, it focuses the conversation on solving a problem rather than assigning blame. I-messages can also be a helpful way to provide constructive feedback to other people. Patient does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. You mentioned you had pressure. I feel ______. Consigue EVOLUTION en:iTunes: http://smarturl.it/cd9evolutionApple Music: http://smarturl.it/cd9evolutionamSpotify: http://smarturl.it/cd9evolutionspo Google. The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation. After 3 months of suffering with the urinary symptoms, I went to my gyn and I kid you not, he told me to have a colonoscopy to rule out any bowel issues that could be mimicking bladder symptoms. usually i am a really positive person but lately it is hard to be positive. Steven Gans, MD is board-certified in psychiatry and is an active supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital. I tell my doctors I think the anxiety and digestive issues are hormone related but they look at me like I'm crazy.I'm looking for a new doctor who is female and post menopausal that has a clue what this stage is all about. I did an at home UTI test and it was negative so have any of you ladies had this. My shoulder blade and ear and throat pain have gotten better and I was feeling pretty good and now I'm having alot of acid relux and feeling like I need to burp and cant. I know what you mean about chocolate I drank a choc shake the other day and I had horrible refux. shari. I'd greatly appreciate hearing from you if/when convenient for an update. i had that for a few years and the more i was stressing about it the worst the discomfort got! You can almost compare it to mindful . For instance, people often say, "You make me so mad," which typically causes a defensive reaction from the other person at the first word. I also get rib pain on my left side only, comes and goes. May be an avenue to explore if all tests have come back fine. Misunderstandings in relationships happen to everyone. Finally, a solution should be given. People tend to feel a need to reciprocate, including in communication. Your self worth, self esteem, self confidence and all that other good 'self' stuff is gone right out the window. Thank you again for responding!. Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. I am about 2 months shy of my menoversary and i dont want anything to interfere with that. I was having hormonal issues then. 348 users are following. My kids are grown and gone as well..i do feel lonely and the few friends I have they don't have it as bad as us so they don't understand..like you im seating here constantly worrying. Youre right: googling is dangerous! My doctors think i blow everything out of proportion. mind you it was very painful some days but I guess sad to say I've learned most days to cope. I have had this deep ache and almost burning type sensation right on top of my pubic bone. It occured to me when I had a bout of yeast infections that would not go away without diflucan for about three months, but the feeling when I knew I had a yeast infection was bladder discomfort like Interstitial Cystitis. Maybe because of declining estrogen. Hi, I've developed this anxiety this year about fear I'm dying. I'm finally considering some form of HRT, do some research first, if youre in peri estrogen tends to be higher, i developed fibroids when this started and estrogen makes them worse x, my chest pains have been really bad today I feel sick and faint and the head pressure too. So i have been vigilant in my drinking. I don't have headaches, a little congested but I don't think it's allergies. But i was wondering what happened about your alp being elevated.Ive just had liver function tests and they are all normal except alp , which is raised 128. I took a 5mg valium and jumped in my car and drove to the vicinity of the hospital thinking I'm going to get a heart attack and die making several rounds on the block without going in! ", "I feel worried when I don't know whether you made it home safely. Now getting night sweats which are nothing compared to nausea. It does not burn when I pee and this too comes and goes. Another way to say I Feel? my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu. I apologize for the TMI. Looking back I am pretty sure I am 8 months into it but symptoms are getting worse. Don't google it will stress you more out, everything leads to cancer or that your dying, easier said than done. So i was googling pretty much what causes elevated sed rate and alp rates. Research suggests that I-messages can improve communication, which is why they are often used in couples counseling, family therapy, and other therapeutic interventions. It feels as im constantly running to the bathroom even at home and not much comes out. My doctors tell me everything is fine as i have had normal CT scans and normal gyn ultrasounds. When one person is communicating in a way that is non-confrontational and emotion-focused, the listeners are more likely to match their own responses to that of the speaker. Take Care. do you feel good after taking only Oregano oil ? Im nauseous but hungry. I've had the same pelvic pain and my going to the Dr. this week. It just feels like its never going to end! Im 56 and post menopause.My doctor is going to retest in 3 months but ive been googling and now Im worried out of my mind! I realize this was posted months ago but I'm hoping there are still others out there that can relate i feel as if this perimenooause is breaking me i literally feel as if I'm dying from nausea the moment i wake up to constant anxiety and panic attacks, jelly legs etc its horrible and so overwhelming I don't recognize myself I used to be such a practical thinking person. I know exactly how you feel, anxiety is putting so much strain on my life, I don't sleep well as I get panic attacks, fear that I'm dying, I live alone and it makes it worse as I fear something will happen and I have no one to help me. I use to go to the stores, movies out to eat so wasn't this bad ..now being constantly in the house days at the time. Hope you feel better soon! I've lost almost all interest in guys. I have had it for YEARS (and I mean YEARS) so if THAT was anything, I would be dead by now! It is likely that Susan only got a defensive response. I have never been a "moaner". NOW, the bladder! All of a sudden I had almost every one of the perimenapause symptoms. Gave up on docs office. Can things get any worse? I would like to be invited to be with you, even if you are with your friends.". I dont think its IC but i get this pressure but very little urine. It allows the speaker to express control and ownership of their emotions without directly accusing the other person of being at fault. God bless . sending lots of hugs to you all feeling the same way xx. Then the nausea which would come in waves. they reassured me they are fine and this too shall pass. 2023 Dotdash Media, Inc. All rights reserved. I think together and reading each other's posts, it makes us hopeful and not so alone! One way to accomplish this is through the use of "I feel" statements, also known as feeling statements, I-messages, or just I-statements. What a difference a pronoun makes: i/we versus you/me and worried couples perceptions of their interaction quality. I also feel nervous and jittery. Hargie O. you name it,! Thinking of you too! Im thinking i might have Vaginal Atrophy. I am mentally, physically and emotionally drained to say the least. I suffer terrible medical anxiety so understand what you are going through. My doctors think stress/anxiety are causing my symptoms. im on HRT patch and anti depressant but i dont think this one is working so i may need to switch. Praying like you that this is just another "symptom" and not cancer. Still I feel scared being on my own during those panic attacks and anxiety. I have been like this for 3 years and I'm finding it harder and harder to cope. Good luck to us ! i am glad to say while they can still come, they are at least frequent. This Corona Virus lockdown is not helping either. So happy to have found this site, I finally don't feel so alone. Then there are times when i do not want anything. And always scared of everything. NO appetite, food sits at top of stomach, can just nibble, losing a lb. i cant sleep, eat or go on with my daily responsibilities..the tension headaches are so bad the past week!! 2016;35(2):180-205. doi:10.1177/0261927X15583114. You are SO not alone! lol. A 2018 study found that the use of "I" language was the most effective strategy to use during conflict. i exhaust myself worrying all the time. Not quite dizziness, more like I'm on a boat. I saw your post about rib and left side pain. This has topped me off as well as extremely heavy periods which last for days! Premarin and yes, i know about the mares I wanted to try this first as it got more good reviews than Estrace . My prayers are with all of us. Wow, that is expensive! have had periods off/on during course of last 3 years --- during which hospitalized twice for extreme nausea, dry heaving and dehydration. this seriously needs to stop. In early 50's (appears to be late menopause as still in Peri) no period since mid-December. the worst feeling ever. Feeling statements can be helpful in both everyday communication as well as in therapeutic settings. I live in Spain where we have free medical for everyone, but if you go holistic you do pay out of pocket. I used to get naseau but not very often now. i am 45 and feel like im losing my mind periods come very regular but the past theee months i had one hospital stay because of racing heart that comes and goes, vertigo, hot flashes the stomach wrenching anxiety full ear head feeling periods are a nightmare. For me, faith too is cornerstone in this struggle. Does propranolol help you? Afraid that my insurance would deny the payment of the colonoscopy after I had it done (no prior authorization needed and I am not 50 or older), I decided to wait my symptoms out and sure enough, they have improved. (lol). Very light. as being in breach of those terms. For example i google "urination problems in your fifties" or something like that and guess popped up? When I first started this menopause "thang" I was like "this is a piece of cake"! I never use to be like this. i also gained a bunch of new food allergies and intolerances because it caused my immunity to go down. Dry mouth and burning tongue make it really hard to eat so I am losing weight. I've had my blood, urine, fecal checked --- all have come out normal. My heart goes out to everyone dealing with this. at times i will feel the ache in my left side. My doctors say they fodt worry about my levels unless it was 3 times higher. You know they are bad when you are asking for the alternating constipation/diarrhea to come back so you can be over the urinary symptoms! Right now my biggest symptom is my bladder. But it's one of the perimenopause symptoms some of us experience as I speak to other women going thru perimenopause and some have talked about this kind of symptoms. Everyone described me as "strong". I wish you the best too, let me know if you need to talk. PeerJ. My alkaline phosphatase is elevated as well as my sed rate. Lately most days are spent thinking I'm dying from dome form of cancer. I also have been fighting migraines, so painful they cause vomiting. A feeling statement keeps the focus on the feeling of the speaker which is less likely to elicit a defensive reaction and more likely to promote effective communication. Now, anxiety has crept its way back in and is working over my meds, even stronger. x, Hi, my periods are very irregular, I won't have a period for 3-4 months, then I'll have one every 18 days a few times, the 5 months withoutI've had quite a lot of tests, bloods, been to 2 neurologists, gynae, gastro docs, all okish, except for Sibo and low in vit d and iron. The focus stays on the feeling, and the goal continues to be alleviating the uncomfortable feeling. My period also stopped last July, I felt alot better those months without a period, then it came back in January until March and my symptoms started again but not so bad first and second period, in March I started to get hot flashes and a period too. I had Covid in late December and some days I can't decide if my shortness of breath is the usual peri symptom of air hunger or from my Covid infection. 2018;9(1):2474. doi:10.1038/s41467-018-04925-y, Rogers SL, Howieson J, Neame C. I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way: the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict. Also having anxiety attacks joint pain and stomach issues and ear pain that not caused from infection. Luckily I have two dogs for company. When people talk about feelings, they often have a tendency to assign blame first while downplaying the feeling. NO APPETITE either. I last bled in December and FSH test came out at 76. They put it down to diverticulitis, which of course can cause digestive issues too. I am the caretaker in my house. Every day I feel like either the end is near or that I will be committedit's just insane. When you say you know the feeling, do you feel really rotten too? I think when hormones are off, the pH gets messed up and causes all sorts of strange things in the bladder/vagina. This of course made me very cranky. So weird. Erin Johnston, LCSW is a therapist, counselor, coach, and mediator with a private practice in Chicago, Illinois. I was also of the opinion that I will die home alone and no one will find me! It started a month ago. I've had perimenopause for the last two years. While it can be a bit challenging at first, you may find that this approach becomes more natural over time. Then the rush of adrenaline.. plus panic attacks in between. 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